Am I Mr. Darcy?

Having watched Pride & Prejudice a few days ago ... I think the character I immediately connected with was Mr. Darcy ... cause I see shades of myself. And guess what? I read least nigh from my INTJ (Myers Brigss test) profile that as an INTJ, some of the fictional characters of INTJ include Mr. Darcy & Gandalf ... real life INTJs are ... Rudy Giuliani & Colin Powell ...

from my previous test ... I was an ENTJ ... but seems like I have moved to a more introverted side ...

And some tips here about INTJs ...

Dealing with INTJ

1. Be willing to back up your statements with facts - or at least some pretty sound reasoning.

2. Don't expect them to respect you or your viewpoints just because you say so. INTJ respect must be earned.

3. Be willing to concede when you are wrong. The average INTJ respects the truth over being "right". Withdraw your erroneous comment and admit your mistake and they will see you as a very reasonable person. Stick to erroneous comments and they will think you are an irrational idiot and treat everything you say as being questionable.

4. Try not to be repetitive. It annoys them.

5. Do not feed them a line of bull.

6. Expect debate. INTJs like to tear ideas apart and prove their worthiness. They will even argue a point they don't actually support for the sake of argument.

7. Do not mistake the strength of your conviction with the strength of your argument. INTJs do not need to believe in a position to argue it or argue it well. Therefore, it will take more than fervor to sway them.

8. Do not be surprised at sarcasm.

9. Remember that INTJs believe in workable solutions. They are extremely open-minded to possibilities, but they will quickly discard any idea that is unfeasible. INTJ open-mindedness means that they are willing to have a go at an idea by trying to pull it apart. This horrifies people who expect oohs and ahhs and reverence. The ultimate INTJ insult to an idea is to ignore it, because that means it's not even interesting enough to deconstruct.

This also means that they will not just accept any viewpoint that is presented to them. The bottom line is "Does it work?" - end discussion.

10. Do not expect INTJs to actually care about how you view them. They already know that they are arrogant bastards with a morbid sense of humor. Telling them the obvious accomplishes nothing.

Just let go ...

Have you ever felt before like the world has become so bad that it’s so hopeless & you just don’t want any part of it? Everything you do, someone just finds fault with it?

2006 started off that way. My new job was horrendously challenging. My social life just sucked. My hobbies just turned sour. Everything had a shade of lemony irony. And at that point, I just snapped & told myself, I am gonna drop it all. So I did … in letting go … just refuse to be bothered by it all … just cut off all of my stuff that had a sour bearing into life.

I felt different, but the gamble worked. Sure, life continues to throw me lemons & rotten eggs still … but I tell myself, I don’t need this shit. Just keep my conscience clear, know the intention of my actions & if people can’t handle it, that’s ‘fucking’ too bad. Yup, they can be bithcy, emotional or whatever ... don't need to care for these losers ...

… which reminds me, to remove the comment functions … and delete those bitchy e-mails ...

the world keeps turning ....

when i decided to take a hiatus from being 'jayteoh' ... it felt hard to drop things I did each day with passion.

now, i just felt like just staying on with the changes i've had. Let's see ... i stopped my blog for a month. In this time, my thoughts simmered within for longer time. Less people know what I thought, read what i wrote, guessed less what i felt.

Stopped taking my favourite food. Listened to different songs. Meet different people. Dropped some people from my life. Put new people into my life. Took only the necessary along. Friends ... necessities ...

verdict? it's good to be reminded to change, to fish meself out of monotone. To challenge my comfort zone. To stretch. To know that it's fine to drop things i love, to develop it more. To try more things. Just take the necesary along ... my values, principles & whom i love.

but even if not, the world keeps turning. Petrol price went up. Some power outages. Some politics. Cogs of the world ... oblivious of lesser beings.







Quote my guru in Mumbai ... "Mr. Teoh, yes, the world goes on. With or without you. Time waits for no man."




Yes, let's not wait ... see you, when I write again.








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