Is it worth it?

Quite recently my friend DL lectured me about relationships and my fault in view of my relationships; he feels I take things too black & white … where I put too much logic into mine, I try to play things too safe, play things too logically … which ultimately takes the romance out of things. True. Typical me.

Anyway, I’m not here to debate over this never ending topic … rather to share something.

When you marry someone, for sure you marry cause you love your partner right? (Exceptions made to the oops cases) And when you marry, you make sacrifices right? And when you make sacrifices, they are not meant to be counted right, because as they say, love is not calculative, it’s balancing out things, right?

Spoke to someone today. This person left her country to marry someone, left her career to raise her family with her partner. She gave up a lot of things in the name of love.

The thing is, love never promised a contract in eternity.

And after years there, she got divorced … she decided to return to Malaysia and her children; she had to leave them behind with her former. Back, alone, starting all over again.

So the question is quite simple actually, was it all worth it?

Was it all love?

Was it a sacrifice or should there’ve been compromise?

Indeed questions that cannot be answered unless turns are unwounded back in time, so forget it. Even more so, forgive me if I’m too paranoid about the topic of love.

Yes, we need to compromise, but there’s a time for selfishness. After all, compromise was not fully giving in, but fulfilling partial selfishness. If we did give all in the name of love when the other does not, then we should know that we cannot ask for it back.

Is it really worth it? Actually, no answer … and no point regretting. Move on.