The shitty part about large families …

I grew up in a family of 3 … 1 bro & 1 sis … so that doesn’t really relate to the topic, does it?

But ah, as you see … me dad & mum have very large families … 11 for paternal & 13 for maternal … and the range of age difference is up to 20 years difference. Supposedly, as people age, they should be wiser. But there are also cases of older becoming more senile and childish, and for this case … I definitely have uncles & aunts who are deplorably childish.

From young, I’ve learnt & observed a few things:

o If your grandparents are rich & have many kids, they’ll reach a stage of fighting for favor & family heirlooms

o If you spoil your kids from young, by letting them do things they want, to pick up gambling, smoking & other vices, you’re letting them take it for lifetime

o Religion can be evil, especially when you’ve uncles & aunts so corrupted by their pursuit for god that they

o Think lowly of people who are not their religion (said only they go to heaven, the rest to hell)

o They take their institution brothers as higher than their own kin

o They preach in name of their religion, but continue to slander & play family politics for their heirloom – is that the rightful conduct of supposedly religious people? They ‘supposedly’ work for their institution full time, supposedly ‘holy’ people but the only holy thing they do is to create bad image of people form their institution by their conduct

o I’ve repeatedly called myself Mr. Kiasu (with friends), but until you’ve met some of my relatives, you’ve not really met the gods of kiasu (except for those apes at Lang Tengah). They’ll unashamedly ask for things that I’ll not ask for, will fight for trivial things at functions or in public

o There’ll be some real LOSERS in the family, perhaps not all are black sheep, but some who are not self driven for success (or even normalcy or status quo) … just happy to slide down into the bottomless pits of underachievement

o There’s some classic ASSHOLES … and not assholes for reason, but ASSHOLES for the sake of kicking dust up unnecessarily, wanting to make people angry, just plain childish (like my fucked-up paternal uncle)

o Some are chicken hearted braggarts who brag & promise, but never live up to their promises, who wants to be the cockerel in the sun’s spotlight, but hide under the shed then nightfall looms & calls for a torchbearer.

Some good things?

Well, several relatives are cool … they have been modest, hardworking & have succeeded well … got 1 cousin in Ireland studying med, 1 preparing for Germany & another for UK … all 3 under full government scholarships (lucky, but they also deserved it). But for so many bad apples for the price of several good ones does not make a good balance, in either economics or relations.

Taking stock of it all, I think big families are too complex, luckily mine is small & things are ironed out easier & less generation gap (although my sister has some, even with 5 years, so what about those with 20? Simply mind boggling complexities.

I do campaign for small families, easier to manage (unless your patriarch & matriarch have genius IQ & EQ to match for managing harmony in such large line-up), otherwise do brace yourselves for some thunderstorms, clashes & heartbreaks.

Out & over.