Time & space

It’s amazing to think that distance & time can sometimes be a metaphor & alternatively, realistic. As such is the approach by various in love, is the amazing impact of space & time.

After seeing quite a few of people I know melt away their rock solid relationships due to physical & periodic separation, I myself thought many times that it takes a lot of commitment both in heart & mind to keep it alive. After all, as people say, out of sight is out of mind as opposed to absence makes the heart grow fonder.

The thing is … you tend to see things from different perspectives after being in a new environment or living independently from the other half for a while. Then, the freedom or new dimension will be threatened should the current return to the former. For myself, I know that my feelings for someone changed the moment I returned to Malaysia … I have just become someone else … and I moved forward, whereas I felt she had not.

But you know what? My good friend, UL proved us all wrong & despite he being away from NY for quite a bit of time (even now) … they are still going strong. I find it amazing and wonder what the secret is … suspecting that the only possible non-logical answer is love, which in logical terms may be best described as stubborn feelings that just remain solid even after all harrowing challenges? Ok, bad attempt, but you probably get the drift (hopefully).

In a more introspective way, I think perhaps the key to their relationship is the distance & space they allow each other. As Buddhist teachings elaborate, all humankind’s suffering comes from an attachment to a former … and while the feelings & commitment is there, there’s space for the individual to grow, with several principles as the backbone for the relation. I’ve never seen a lot of control over one another … and no vibes of that at all. That gives one to the other the space to try new things & explore, with the future not too determined yet and not too focused on physical togetherness, just on keeping the relation alive.

While I believe that each relation is unique, nevertheless this is a page from their chapter that we can draw upon positively.