A Christmas wish
This year in 2006 ...
“Last Christmas, I gave you my heart
But the very next day, you gave it away
This year, to save me from tears
I'll give it to someone special”
~ Last Christmas (I gave you my heart), by Wham & George Michael
Today’s story is not about me and the wish is not a wish for me. My heart is ravaged, not by (yet another) heartbreak but sadness.
I believe in every person’s lifetime, will emerge a soul so pure, innocent, kind, nice and angelic … these are the precious little souls whom we would like to protect from all the evils and contamination of humankind. In my past 27 years, I have come across several & C’s one of them; the first encounter was like “Wow! Are you for real?” and that’s what drew me to her character.
For a while our friendship drifted apart; while it survived the idealistic days of AIESEC, it did not survive career and I lost touch for a bit. But for moments when we did catch up, it was good to talk to someone who had always a much more optimistic approach to life and a positive outlook (& often lessons) for every down.
However, as we all know, time & tides do change people and adulthood does reshape the perspectives of even the strongest optimist, and at this time, it holds very much true.
Not too long ago, at a time when I had long chats with C, I remembered one about life, destiny and partners in that journey of life. It was heartwarming that C could envision the perfect life that normal beings pursue, which is to have a successful career, family and purpose driven life. Even the pessimistic & devil’s advocate in me had to agree that life does have its silver lining worth sacrificing & waiting for.
In our most recent discussion after a while, it was good to meet C once again, and indulge ourselves in a discussion & catching up on lost times. We have both reached crossroads of our young lives & career, so we share some stories about our challenges, our triumphs and lessons. I felt that she had grown up a lot … mostly in the sense that she has seen more of the real harsh world and taking everything in stride, still optimistic, but maybe a little ragged and tired of corporate politics.
Now, what shocked me was her declaration that she would never want to get married or in a politically correct definition, a formal relationship. After some jokes & nudging, her stand was verified and interestingly, she reached a conclusion that in today’s world of divorces, broken families and unstable marriages, was there any point at all or hopes for the perfect family & couple?
Honestly, that point did stun me, not for that the fact was wrong, but for it to come from her, must have been a harsh interpretation, especially coming from an optimist. She drove the point that people today are more promiscuous, less loyal and selfish, so who am I to argue since I was always an advocate that today’s morals is in stuck deep in society’s muddy backwaters? I have seen relatives, friends and acquaintances torn apart from the moment they sold their soul to the devil in the name of power & wealth, and even at times, I wonder if the strength of humankind has compromised its integrity? And after so many unsuccessful times, is it possible to find the one true heart?
Close to our parting point, we made an interesting bet that she would get married eventually and it is a bet I would like to win, because she is a great person, a sincere heart and worth her weight in gold, and deserves an equal to share a life with her.
And as quoted by Aragorn from the Return of the King, “There will be a time when we give up on humanity, but it shall not be this day” and from the people I have known in my journey, there are many others of true hearts; people who are sincere to you, people of the same values & direction in life, people worthy of sharing our journeys.
In the true spirit of a believer, I make it my Christmas wish for this year that you will find your true heart. Some day, some place and most of all, someone.
May life be not of ‘last Christmases’, but Christmas for your lifetime …
Seasons cheers,
Jay
“Last Christmas, I gave you my heart
But the very next day, you gave it away
This year, to save me from tears
I'll give it to someone special”
~ Last Christmas (I gave you my heart), by Wham & George Michael
Today’s story is not about me and the wish is not a wish for me. My heart is ravaged, not by (yet another) heartbreak but sadness.
I believe in every person’s lifetime, will emerge a soul so pure, innocent, kind, nice and angelic … these are the precious little souls whom we would like to protect from all the evils and contamination of humankind. In my past 27 years, I have come across several & C’s one of them; the first encounter was like “Wow! Are you for real?” and that’s what drew me to her character.
For a while our friendship drifted apart; while it survived the idealistic days of AIESEC, it did not survive career and I lost touch for a bit. But for moments when we did catch up, it was good to talk to someone who had always a much more optimistic approach to life and a positive outlook (& often lessons) for every down.
However, as we all know, time & tides do change people and adulthood does reshape the perspectives of even the strongest optimist, and at this time, it holds very much true.
Not too long ago, at a time when I had long chats with C, I remembered one about life, destiny and partners in that journey of life. It was heartwarming that C could envision the perfect life that normal beings pursue, which is to have a successful career, family and purpose driven life. Even the pessimistic & devil’s advocate in me had to agree that life does have its silver lining worth sacrificing & waiting for.
In our most recent discussion after a while, it was good to meet C once again, and indulge ourselves in a discussion & catching up on lost times. We have both reached crossroads of our young lives & career, so we share some stories about our challenges, our triumphs and lessons. I felt that she had grown up a lot … mostly in the sense that she has seen more of the real harsh world and taking everything in stride, still optimistic, but maybe a little ragged and tired of corporate politics.
Now, what shocked me was her declaration that she would never want to get married or in a politically correct definition, a formal relationship. After some jokes & nudging, her stand was verified and interestingly, she reached a conclusion that in today’s world of divorces, broken families and unstable marriages, was there any point at all or hopes for the perfect family & couple?
Honestly, that point did stun me, not for that the fact was wrong, but for it to come from her, must have been a harsh interpretation, especially coming from an optimist. She drove the point that people today are more promiscuous, less loyal and selfish, so who am I to argue since I was always an advocate that today’s morals is in stuck deep in society’s muddy backwaters? I have seen relatives, friends and acquaintances torn apart from the moment they sold their soul to the devil in the name of power & wealth, and even at times, I wonder if the strength of humankind has compromised its integrity? And after so many unsuccessful times, is it possible to find the one true heart?
Close to our parting point, we made an interesting bet that she would get married eventually and it is a bet I would like to win, because she is a great person, a sincere heart and worth her weight in gold, and deserves an equal to share a life with her.
And as quoted by Aragorn from the Return of the King, “There will be a time when we give up on humanity, but it shall not be this day” and from the people I have known in my journey, there are many others of true hearts; people who are sincere to you, people of the same values & direction in life, people worthy of sharing our journeys.
In the true spirit of a believer, I make it my Christmas wish for this year that you will find your true heart. Some day, some place and most of all, someone.
May life be not of ‘last Christmases’, but Christmas for your lifetime …
Seasons cheers,
Jay
posted by Jay @ 23.12.05
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